The College Conception

I am approaching my senior year in college. I recently went to one of my best friend’s graduation ceremony (commencement). Watching her confidently walk up, shake hands with the dean, and get her diploma, made me realize how much we grow in 4 very short years.

College is prided to be the years of your life where you discover who you are, what your hobbies are, what skills you have, and meet life long friends.

While some of this is true. I think the process extends past undergrad. Why should 4 years define the rest of your life? That’s a bit intimating! To think that the rest of your life is planned out with no room for error.

My perception of college strays from tradition. Rather than being guarded by parents, in a home you share, with people you see everyday. Where you are a link in a chain that holds the daily life of your family together. I find that college is where you are first exposed to what the world is like through the eyes as an individual.

You begin to realize that you have to rely on yourself. Advice my be a phone call, text, or Skype call away, but now  you own your own actions.

This is freeing for some, and terrifying for others. What I always tell first-year students is that they are not alone. There are x amount of people in your grade, that are experiencing the same exact emotions as you. Whether you’re in nursing, businesses, or psychology, you’re all going through this stage of your life together.

College has transformed me. Both mentally an physically. Coming from a high school with little cultural diversity, college felt like I was thrown into a melting pot. I’ve met and made friends with people from all over the world. People of different religion, and culture. People who have lived through war, others who have been discriminated against. They have attributed to reflecting on my own life, and staying humble. Because of them, my world view has widened.

Many people waltz out of commencement, bound on a path of their own making without question. I, on the other hand, am hoping to see that path, but am also prepared to create a new one. I don’t feel obligated to figure out what I’m meant to do with my life, by the time I graduate. Nor does anyone else need to. Although some have, we are not all created to discover our destiny when we are 17-18 years old.

Looking back, I have used my time in college to unlock pieces of myself, some of which I never new existed. I discovered a love for stretching and yoga, a fondness for classical music, and the thrill of writing. You also find passions, like , photography, social awareness, ending poverty, film, and digital media. But keep in mind, that there isn’t a puzzle to complete.

This is the time where you carve your voice. A spark ignites your opinions and you begin to feel strong standing by them. College spawns your individuality. It’s at your door to welcome you at orientation. It becomes your shadow, unique, everlasting, and loyal.

Many people have been educated their whole life, 12 years(give or take), to be a part of a university. Many believe they know what to expect. Throw that ideology out the window. Keep an open mind, without clouds of stories you’ve heard. College is only the first step of your life transforming you.

Here is a quote to keep your thoughts rolling,

162832“I’ve learned one thing, and that’s to quit worrying about stupid things. You have four years to be irresponsible here, relax. Work is for people with jobs. You’ll never remember class time, but you’ll remember the time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So stay out late. Go out with your friends on a Tuesday when you have a paper due on Wednesday. Spend money you don’t have. Drink ’til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does…”
Tom Petty

How was your college experience? Not there yet? What do you think about the conceptions of of it?



4 thoughts on “The College Conception

  1. gmmrs says:

    GREAT blog! I love this. I think you have the right idea with college. Congrats on making it to this point, soak up your last year, life will be a lot different once you leave. See I was the opposite of what you wrote about haha. I planned out my entire college schedule during my senior year in high school. Darn near worked out too, well it did except for the classes I was going to use to minor which I ended up not minoring in anything. But my path was clear to me that I was going to be a meteorologist and that’s it. Never any wavering from that and hell it was hard at points, a lot of points and my views changed a little bit after my freshman year from trying to get a great GPA to just finding someway, anyway to get the degree and get the hell out of here in 4 years hahaha. Mostly due to my rigid idea of what my schedule was going to be each year. I do like routine though. But I probably shouldn’t have been as rigid going in. At least I managed the expectations game. I learned that hell getting the degree is more than half the battle, don’t beat myself up on trying to be the number 1 in my class because at least in my field what does that mean once you get to the “real world”? Doesn’t mean a thing. Only time I mentioned my college GPA was in my application for my first job. Just show up I say. Do what it takes to keep your eye on the prize and the diploma at the end. Real life starts after you get it. But yeah I discovered a lot about myself. High school sucked because we moved a lot, so I hoped as hell college would be the best years of my life and compared to high school they turned out to be. I loved college, only really appreciated it when I got out of college. Damn if only I had a little more money in college too haha. Real world headaches suck. Savor it I say, just take advantage of every experience you can because things change after you get out. Not that its a bad thing, its just different. Would I want to go back to college now? Probably not mostly because it has changed SO much from when I graduated 13 years ago. I’d be so out of the loop at what y’all do haha and the tools that you use, its like a whole different era. But I do miss it, still miss it, haven’t not missed it since I left.

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    • justgeeklyfab says:

      Thank you! You’ve just written a ton of good advice! I especially like when you said, “I loved college, only really appreciated it when I got out of college.” I think a lot of people would agree with you. But you planned things out, and things didn’t turn out half bad eh? “Being rigid” going to college is what many people continue to do. But it’s not necessarily the wrong way, just one of many.
      Yeah I tell myself not to worry too much about grades, just to learn and enjoy, “getting a degree is more than half the battle” is very well said!
      Many graduates have told me that your GPA doesn’t matter after your first job. I guess it’s more about the experience/resume.
      I will try to savor every moment of senior year, no matter how stressful it may get 🙂

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      • gmmrs says:

        You’re very welcome and ya know, you’re not wrong at all with your thoughts on this. In fact I remember hearing these same things when I came into college too, I just was super stubborn and lazer focused on what I wanted to do that I didn’t consider anything else haha. One of my freshman events they said, don’t worry about having a major in mind now and sticking to it because the average college student changes 4 or 5 times during the course of college. To me at the time I thought that was terrifying because I was thinking damn I’m never going to get out of here in 4 years if I change my mind haha. I knew people who changed a lot but still got their degree. And that’s fine! Definitely fine. Anyway, you mention its like a melting pot and yeah it was for me too and I think that just made the experience more positive. I learned so much more after than I did going in about life and about people, getting out of my comfort zones at home and learning about the world more than just in class. One of the most important things I learned was that Applebee’s riblets didn’t constitute as barbeque. Haha I mean really, I’m a kid of the suburbs, strip malls and construction and chain restaurants. Rude awakening when I realized that wasn’t bbq. But even beyond simple things like that…I found my voice in spirituality from college. I learned that aerobics was pretty cool and not just for the girls, I was beginning to realize what I wanted out of relationships, especially romantic ones. I figured out that there are underlying consequences for every action in life if you really think about it and learn the background information. Nothing is just black or white, there’s grey everywhere and I didn’t quite understand that before college. And ya know I guess I shouldn’t say just show up, do your best of course I just meant don’t kill yourself trying to be the absolute best when really its good for style points but won’t be the difference when looking for a job. Oh you got a 3.2 well this person had a 3.5 GPA so they’re hired. You’re right its about experience and even beyond just job/internship experience, real world experience is helpful. Volunteering, being a mentor, being a good, decent person to others around you and always showing a willingness to learn and get better, now that will go a long way. I hope senior year won’t be too stressful for you. See in planning out my schedule I tried to kill myself my sophomore year scheduling a murderers row of physics, chemistry and calculus the whole year along with classes in my major and it was BRUTAL!!! I cried a lot haha and I was an “A” student in high school, high GPA and honors and all that and it was very humbling not being that anymore in college. Pushed through though and the schedule eased my last 2 years. You deserve to enjoy that last year.

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      • justgeeklyfab says:

        More wise words! Thank you for spending time reading and reflecting with me!
        There really is grey everywhere, and we need to train ourselves to recognize it.
        My spirituality also came out during college. I think it’s because of the stress and being more independent minded. But that’s good!
        I’m still trying to figure out what I want out of all relationships, especially romantic ones. But that will come with time and experiences.
        Aerobics is definitely not only for girls! Haha. I honestly also didn’t know that about Applebee’s riblets… Oh geez!
        You were crazy to take Chem calc and physics in one year!! Even though I kinda did that too 😅
        Thanks again!

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